First off, I’m a non practicing Jewish man. I’m 29 and wasn’t looking for the relationship I found. Neither did a woman I now consider my best friend.
I met a Catholic lady who has been divorced against her church elders permission 4 years ago. Her father & Reverend saw her thru her tough time. Her ex had several affairs although she could not prove it and the elders never granted her the permission to divorce thru the church. She has done so legally.
Fast Forward 4 years. I work for her family at their stores and there was amazing energy between us. Neither of us were looking for what we have. I care about her kids, I check on them with her, I have gained her trust, I have her house key, she has mine. We don’t need each other for $ or life things. We’re both adults and established(houses, business) its as pure as anything I’ve ever imagined a relationship could be. We’re both not phone people and I recently went to visit my parents for 4 days and we were on the phone for over an hour each day. I think this is enough back round.
Our relationship progressed quite fast. Basically 3 months in. So fast that for the last month we were engaged. She broke it off, and I tend to agree that its probably for the best for both of us to slow down. We both love each other very much still with the heart ache.
The problem is her parents do not know the extent of our relationship. I came by her house on halloween they were very nice. I setup her father’s computer in his office this week. He practically interviewed me about my business, home, stocks… I think her father is pretty smart and savvy. He knows, he doesn’t know it all though. I get along with her mother as well just fine.
What I ask you all as experts in your religion is this. I’m not practicing religion(no hebrew school, no temple…). I’m tolerant of all religions and I am a life long learner. I would never want to change the way she teaches her children and if we had any I’d not have any objection to raising them in her faith. I just don’t know the catholic faith and I feel that she’s scared of getting kicked out of her church, she was ex communicated for her original divorce. Do churches have some sort of promise that you make if they let you back in to never mess up again?
At the same time I still have a key. I still work for her. I still tell tell her I love her. She still calls me honey. She’s very predictable because I know her so well.
Does your religion allow an open minded tolerant person to accompany a great person on the path of life? Or would I go to hell for marrying a catholic and her guilt of that prevent this?
I’ll be happy to clarify if this rambles too much.
Thank you all,