My 16 yr old son has a girlfriend (his first, x 2 mos.) who is a black belt in karate. She gave him a 8 lesson pass to the place she goes to. I told him that he could do the 8 weeks and I would make a decision as to whether or not he could continue (based on what I saw at the classes and cost).
Well, the first class had her little brother, 10, and boys younger and sparring, I guess you call it. They wore chest protectors, pads on their feet and face cages like baseball catchers. They did one on one fighting and punches and kicks were thrown to all parts of the body, including the head and private area.
What I saw was, IMHO, quite violent. I know, (my son has told me) that it teaches self-dicipline, self-confidence, blah, blah, blah, but is this really going to make my son remember to feed the dog? Or feel better about himself only because he feels he can kick someone’s butt?
His girlfriend is very petite, and she has mentioned a couple of times, where she has been in situations where boys have either almost jumped her, but they ran away, or a boy wanted to fight her after school, but he chickened out. I am sensing the martial arts may cause someone to be a more bold in a situation than they normally would be. I am sure not everyone would.
So, I don’t get the point. I have lived many, many years, as all my friiends and family, without the need for self-defense. Is letting my son engage in these lessons, just letting him engage in violent “playtime” regardless of whether or not he ever “needs” it? I don’t think it teaches peace, and the attitude of just walking away from a situation. It may not provoke it, but how many times has a person who knows any martial art really ever used it?:shrug: **