So I’m a little concerned about starting this thread because I am fairly sure some people are going to be mildly offended by it and a certain amount of unfair and untrue accusations will be made against me. I am assuming this based on past negative behavior I’ve seen on the forums, but I hope that my assumptions will be proven wrong. Anyway, with that said, I’ll begin.
I went to my first week day mass today. I had been feeling a draw to go to mass daily for some time now and finally decided to do so. I want to make it clear that I do not attend mass expecting to be entertained. I know and agree that that is not the purpose of the mass. However, I also did not expect week day mass to be as cheerful as a graveyard!
I’m not sure if this is just a quirky trait of the parish I attend or if it’s common behavior in most parishes? I should add that I just moved across the state and this is a new parish for me.
To start, there were only 5 of us in attendance (counting the priest). Now, this low attendance isn’t anyone present’s fault, and that in itself doesn’t mean the mass would necessarily have to be so dreary. But, no one there appeared to be even slightly happy to be there except the priest. Everyone was frowning, eyes downcast, arms folded, etc. Mass is supposed to be a celebration right? It’s supposed to be where we give joyful praise and worship to our Lord, isn’t it? Instead no one spoke above a whisper in the responses at any point. Every part that was “sung” was monotone and almost had the same tone that a child does when he or she is forced to apologize but doesn’t mean it. Even though there were only 5 of us and we were all very close to each other when time came for the sign of peace no one took the time to shake everyone’s hand. I mean there were only 5 of us! I wanted to shake everyone’s hand, but by the time I had shaken one parishioner’s hand the mass was already continuing. And it was only a half hour long mass, so what’s the need to rush any of it? And it certainly did seem rather rushed.
Normally I do not pay attention to anyone at mass unless they are the priest or a lector. I think if you’re spending time paying attention to others at mass then you’re not spending time paying attention to God. However, this mass was so radically different than any mass I had previously been to that I could not help but notice. I kept trying to focus on God, but was just so upset by the mood of the mass.
I felt as if Jesus had invited us all to His house for supper and that we all begrudingly attended, anxiously looking at our watches and glacing at the door. I’m not exaggerating by saying that I left this mass feeling sad for Jesus.
Is this really how week day masses are in general? What is the rationale behind the drastic differences in attitude and demeanor between masses said during the week and those said on Sunday?