Ok - I want to start out by saying that I really love my priest, and I pray for him all the time, and he is pretty orthodox. He is also …ummmm, ‘quirky’ may be the word, he is also kind of grouchy and controlling. He is quite orthodox, but he isn’t very spiritual, or very pastoral with his flock. Case in point:
Last night before mass, I politely approached him with a request that he offer the mass for the repose of the soul of a loved one who recently died. I had the request and name clearly written on a note and handed it to him. He very quickly glanced at it, said “Sure”, and immediatly tore it up and put it in the wastebasket as I was walking out. My impression was that he didn’t read it. I know he knew what I wanted. Mass began 15 minutes later.
And then he never mentioned my request before, during, or after the mass.
What do you think? Does he have to mention the name in order for the mass to be offered for my deceased loved one? Did he or I handle this improperly? I was left confused and a little hurt. Sometimes my priest is not very nice. But he is always orthodox.