Thanks for the answers so far everyone.
[quote="crazzeto, post:3, topic:187408"]
It must be your parish, mine still allows you to receive your Ashes with out attending mass. But why you wouldn't want to go ahead and go to the mass anyway is beyond me personally.
Please don't get me wrong. It's not that I didn't want to go to Mass. My child and I go to Mass every week and on Holy Days of Obligation. It's just that she's young (5-years-old) and our day starts early.
I know her and to ask her to sit though an hour and a half Mass on a weekday night when she's tired from being at school all day is asking for trouble. Sure enough, we went to Mass, but she spent most of the time whining, crying that she was tired, kicking the pew, and wanting to go to the bathroom. When she isn't tired, she's well behaved and participates. Last night she didn't and I could hardly participate I was was trying to keep her pacified enough to not bother the other worshipers. The result was I was upset, angry, and stressed out during Mass and so was she--not exactly the emotions I should have during such a Holy time.
It's that I wanted to introduce my young child to it as part of my teaching her about Lent and wished there was a more child friendly way for me to do so maybe with just ashes or with a shorter Mass like a Daily Mass.
[quote="puzzleannie, post:5, topic:187408"]
are you sure churches around you offered only one opportunity for ashes? did you check?
It's not that there was only one opportunity, it was that there was only one opportunity where I could make it with my work schedule (and it happened to be the Mass from 7:30-9:00 pm). I only have 10 days off a year, so I tend to save taking days off for religious reasons when it's a Holy Day of Obligation. I don't take Ash Wednesday off. It would have been nice if they offered ashes and prayer first and then a Mass following for those who wanted an even more fulfilling experience.