I feel like I have to respond to some bad advice on contraception and what being open to life means. First, NFP is not the Catholic form of birth control. Just because you “don’t want children” now or anymore or whenever doesn’t mean you have a right to contracept or NFP. In that case, NFP is birth control, and that is bad. Sorry, Catholics, even you super organized and ducks-in-a-row ones, you have to acknowledge that there are some things you should not be in control of. The church teaches that NFP is to be used when a couple have GRAVE reason to not have children at the moment. Couples who use NFP still have to be open to life. Secondly, one poster made a comment about how at some point, everyone is done having babies atleast mentally. I would say that it is always best spiritually, emotionally, and psychologically to leave families up to God entirely, meaning you do not seek and you do not shun children, but you simply entrust your family to God, and whatever shall be is His will.
To the poster, only you know what you are capable of, but I would suggest atleast considering ceasing marital relations with your wife. This might be what you’re called to do, with love, charity, and great care. Be with her in her spiritual darkness, and seek out a good spiritual director who can be with you in your suffering. Sacraments, sacraments, sacraments for you. Looking back, I couldn’t have walked through the darkness without them. Also, friends usually give bad advice, so only listen to your priest. Even my Catholic friends doled out junk. God bless you and in my prayers.