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For me, this has been one of the most confusing positions of the Catholic Church. I understand the Church’s position is that sex is for the purpose of pro-creation between man and woman. I have always felt that there are at least three aspects of sex, physical, psychological, and spiritual and that the Church’s position does not always address all three. The joining of a man and woman in marriage can satisfy all three of these, but not necessarily. There is often great disparity in sexual drive between a man and women; being driven in large part by the level of hormones in both which can vary widely. *The Church’s position offers no way of reconciling this disparity. Using the Church’s logic, if either the man or woman could not pro-create (sterility for instance), there would be no need for sex. *
I think this ignores the physical and psychological needs of sex for both men and women. It can also lead to problems within marriage with no solution for resolution other than abstinence and ignoring of physical and psychological needs.
The church’s position provides no solution for men or women whose partner develops some kind of problem which prohibits normal sexual function, be it physical, psychological, etc. ** From my reading from medical sources, many men develop prostate problems because of the buildup of testosterone which can be due to the reduced frequency or abstinence of sex. Ejaculation is the only way for excess testosterone to be reduced in the prostrate (other than special medications)*. I have a friend who is taking these and they can produce enlarged breasts, higher pitched voice, and increased emotional response to events. **From the sources I have read, regular ejaculation is beneficial to the prostrate and can help relieve problems from BHP. *
My wife began entering menopause more than 20 years ago and coupled with her lack of physical exercise and weight gain has resulted in her sex drive dropping to a point where we have not had sex in over 12 years. As a result, I have also developed prostrate problems and now have to take medications. I have found many of my friends have gone through similar experiences, some of which have developed prostate cancer.
It seems to me the Church’s position fails to address problems when normal sex between a man and a woman cannot be consummated and provides no solutions for men and women who are, for what every reason not married.
Let's start by saying that you are terribly mistaken on several points:
1) Medical information. By the "sources" you have listed, surely Priests would be in the very top group of men with Prostate issues, either BPH or prostate cancer. Do your "sources" verify this?
BTW, whatever your source that implies or states that Testosterone is stored in the prostate in prostatic fluid, and the only way to decrease the Testosterone that the prostate is exposed to...well, let's say that such a notion is completely ridiculous is one is even vaguely familiar with reproductive physiology and/or endocrinology.
In short, such a notion is complete and utter bunk. The notion that masturbation can and does reduce a man's susceptability to prostate issues is speculative fantasy at best.
2) Catholic theology information. The Church does certainly address disparity in sex drive; the solution is a concept called "Chastity" or "Abstanance". You might, instead of reading such junk science as you apparently have been reading, try John Paul II's theology of the body. There you might find some interesting reading.
The purposes of sex in marriage is both procreative and unitive. I know many couples who are just waiting for menopause so that they do not have a temptation to use Artificial birth control (Ones for which NFP is difficult or impossible to use).
What I get out of your post is, correct me if I'm wrong or seem harsh, but a "Me, me, me" attitude: I want sex, and I find my wife unattractive (or vice versa). But I deserve sexual release and I have a right to masturbate. Besides, I'll get cancer or BPH if I don't masturbate, so why would God want me to have cancer. That sort of thing.
I would seek out the council of a good marriage councelor and a priest to help work out your questions and difficulties. I think you'll find that the Church has a very different position on sexuality than what you seem to believe. :)