I think they might have just moved in together. It saddens me that my friend might have done this when I know she has been a very conservative Catholic her whole life and pretty devout. I know she was at one time very concerned about modesty.
She got engaged to a young man whom I have not yet met, but it was a very quick engagement (aka dated for 6 weeks or so), and they planned the wedding for mid-June (aka they will be engaged for less than 6 months easily). He is not Catholic, but supposedly plans to go through RCIA in September and is supportive of her faith. He has met with her very conservative priest from childhood as well as her current priest in the town she is living in.
My question is, if in fact I find out they are living together, is it wrong for me to stand up as “witness” to their sacrament as matron of honor?? I was asked a few weeks after she got engaged to be her matron of honor and I accepted (with some trepidation). I did mention to her I was worried about their haste, but that I hoped she had talked over with him all the morals and ideals she had about marriage especially as a sacrament. I felt like I could accept since they were doing marriage prep with a priest and it will be recognized by the Church (they are actually doing the wedding at her parish).
But if they are living together that makes things a little tougher for me in some ways… Am I wrong to be in her wedding if this is the case? Or is that for the priest to decide if they are making a “full consent” and “coming freely”…:shrug: