[quote="catholicanne, post:1, topic:289644"]
My husband and I have been to 9 Catholic churches here in Portland. We just can't seem to find a spiritual home. We enjoy traditional Catholicism but enjoy going to English Mass because we like to understand what the priest is saying. When we started looking for a church we made a short list of criteria the church had to meet. We said our new church:
1. Had to look like a church (no modern, space-age buildings)
2. Had to have a friendly, diverse, active community (groups, classes, community outreach)
3. Had to be a conservative church that did not stray from the Catechism
4. Had to have a priest we could understand (no super heavy accents)
We've come really close to finding churches that meet all of our criteria but they fall short in one or two categories. Some churches didn't meet any of the categories!
At this point, I'm starting to wonder if maybe it's us. Do we have too high of expectations?
The church we went to this past Sunday was a "progressive" church. Apparently last year a group of women from the church boycotted the Eucharist and stood outside the church protesting because they wanted women priests. Also, this church marches in the Gay Pride parade every year. My husband and I were horrified to hear this and needless to say, we won't be returning.
Which parishes have you attended?
What area of Portland do you live in?
Lived in this region all my life and I've never seen or heard of a scene like you describe with boycotting the Eucharist. If what you say regarding marching in the gay pride parade is true--please notify our bishop. I have not heard of this but I'll admit that I don't really follow who participates in the parade and I mostly stick to my parish.
I think you might be looking for the perfect parish--and I am not sure one exists. For example--you list "diverse" as one of your criteria--have you looked at the Portland Metro area? It's not that diverse. Are you looking for orthodox or conservative--you said "conservative church that did not stray from the catechism" and I am not clear what you mean. I don't necessarily equate conservative with orthodox--there can be a fine distinction there in my mind--not straying from the catechism says to me orthodox but conservative says perhaps you are looking for something more than simply orthodox--if that makes any sense.
Knowing what parishes you have attended might help any members here recomend a parish.
Your expectations should be high but it may be that you will need to work within a parish to help transform it. There was a time when our parish did not have a Bible study but thanks to some dedicated parishioners we have had one for over 20 years now. I wish you luck in your search.
The peace of Christ,