Hello all, I need some advice on something so bear with me:
My husband and I got married in the catholic church 1 1/2 years ago and have made our home in a suburb of where I was raised. We met online and he is from Dayton, Ohio which is 250 miles from where we live. My neighborhood, Youngstown, Ohio, is a dying city and jobs are becoming few and far between more and more everyday. He is in computers and currently works a job that’s an hour away that pays nothing. I’m a RN and can work just about anywhere I want, but computer jobs are hard to come by around here because there are no businesses flourishing around here. For the last year we’ve job searched for him and have gotten nothing, not even an interview.
I’m very tight with my family, but I started to think maybe we need to move away so my husband can have a stable job. He applied for a job in Dayton which is a very good job, the kind of job I would hope he would get around Youngstown, and has an interview. I think he’ll probably get offered the job because they seem very interested in him.
My mother and family are IRATE that i’m moving to Dayton and leaving them behind. My mom called me a liar and back-stabber among other things (it’s a long story b/c my older sister left the family and Catholic Church on bad terms and we haven’t seen her in years and I think that’s part of the reason my family is upset) but I feel that if moving is for the best for my future children, then I should. My husband and I are trying to conceive right now and I really want children, but I want my husband to have a good job first and formost.
My mother feels that a family should never break up…NEVER. But i’ve been praying hard on this topic and I think God wants us to move where this job opportunity is. I think the Dayton area is a better place to raise a family because there are jobs and opportunities that Youngstown just doesn’t have. My question is, is it wrong to move away from family in hopes to have a better future for my kids? My mom thinks family trumps money and jobs, and while I think family is important, i have to think of MY future family, namely, my kids.
Thanks for listening to my rambling and any advice would be most welcome! Thank you and God Bless!!!