[quote="Joseph_L_Varga, post:7, topic:250463"]
Prince Hal, I think the best you can do is try to please God first and your wife only second to that. Yes, divorce may be in the cards, but there's frankly nothing you can do about that. If the price of avoiding divorce is going against what you have learned, namely that Jesus Christ established one Church only which happens to be the Catholic Church under the leadership of Peter's successor the Pope, contrary to it being the LDS Church under the leadership of the Prophet, again if the price of avoiding divorce is denying this truth that you have already discovered through God's grace, I will say that's a price too high to pay. If the price of pleasing your wife is that you should displease God in the process, that's a price not worth paying. You should have a correct order of priorities in your life, and the correct order of priorities is this: please God first, and your wife only second to that. And yes, you will please God by joining the one true and real Church established by Christ on the Rock that's Peter and his successors the Popes.
Remember the case of St. Thomas More who said that he was the King's good servant, but God's first. All he had to do was renounce the Catholic Church and the Pope, and his King would have felt pleased with him. But as much as St. Thomas More wanted to serve and please his King, he knew he wasn't at liberty to do that at the expense of renouncing God's design for his Church, and this design meant staying in communion with Rome and the Pope, not with the schismatic King and Archbishop of Canterbury.
In a similar way, you are being called to decision, and there's no way around it. Will you be in communion with Rome and the Pope, or with Salt Lake City and the LDS Prophet?
Do the right thing and let the chips fall where they may. Maybe your wife will divorce you, but rest assured, God will give you the necessary strength to deal with everything that's coming your way. But then again, maybe God will touch your wife's heart, and she will stay with you. Maybe she will even follow you and convert to Catholicism. You don't know at this point, and God has not revealed the future to you. However, there's one thing that God apparently has revealed to you, and that's the truth of the Catholic Church. So, follow that truth, and leave the rest up to God's mercy, God's strength, and God's wisdom. Remember, you are not alone in this conundrum. God is with you through all this.
I have been through something remotely similar, being in love with a Russian Orthodox woman. In my case, the question was this: should I be in communion with Moscow or with Rome? The Pope or the Patriarch of Moscow? I chose Rome, and I did it with a heavy heart, but I knew I was doing the right thing. But my situation was much easier than yours, granted, because we didn't have children. Yet, loosing her was a painful experience. In the end, though, I made it through with God's grace. I'm sure you will make it through, too, even if it means divorce - but it's not sure your wife will divorce you. You don't know at this point. Just do the right thing, one step at a time, and trust God that he won't abandon you through all of this. You are also in my prayers.
Normally, I would agree with much of what you have written here. But, the fact that she is Mormon creates some special problems. There are a two questions that are pertinent here:
Does the OP live in Utah with is family?
Are his wife and her family from Utah?
If the answer to those questions is yes, he needs to be cautious. Mormonism is basically the state religion in Utah. If they live there and his wife decides to leave him over this issue, his access to his kids could be severely restricted. He needs to consult a non-Mormon attorney who is familiar with the inner workings of that church (particularly so if he is in Utah). Right now, I would advise him to thread lightly until he has his legal ducks in a row!