I would like to ask anyone what I should do if a classmate who I thought to be quite religious (he’s Protestant) suddenly starts to act weird.
I study in a Nursing school that allows for second courses—meaning, most of my classmates, have been working have finished with our previous courses and have been working for many years already. So, you can say, we are all adults and not anymore teenagers, though I am very conservative when it comes to marriage and sexuality.
Thing is, I am very friendly and tend to find friends anywhere I am placed. I met this classmate who stood out as someone who talked sense all the time. Me–I love conversing—I love to to jog my mind with friends—men and women alike and it is usually friendly, asexual kind of conversation.
With this guy, he said he studied Divinities before Nursing. We got along well, as friends who accidentally meet in the corridors on our way to our class. We liked talking about being good people.
I thought it was okey when he decided to ask me out for coffee. …then asked me for movie (I didn’t go because I have my Finals this week). I agreed at first because I thought that he was single and was a good man, even though we were of different religion.
Then, yesterday, he told me that he was separated for years already. He believes that God does not expect him not to be with anyone for the rest of his life. I do not want to go out with a married man–so my previous assent to go out for coffee and movie I want to take back.
Suddenly, he started staring at me in a weird way (I thought, what’s got into you?!) He started talking about wanting to invite me to his house (I am NOT that close to him!) and making comments about my body. He returned the ballpen he borrowed by placing it in my breast pocket! He tells me that to him “I am pleasantly plump” —while fixedly staring at my chest! Then he positioned his chair while we were studying in such a way that it was pressing my thigh. I made an excuse that I had to go out and talk to my teacher, then left school premises instead.
Thing is, this guy has been my friend. I have a difficulty giving him the put down–because of that friendship. Its a drastic change from light friendship to intrusiveness. I just want get away from him.
Any thoughts on how to deal with Mr. Jekyll and Hyde?