In the context of male-female relationships: When meeting (or talking with) a man (or a woman) for the first time (or subsequent times), what sort of things might we talk about?
I’m 39 years old, a single mom (DS is three), and I’ve been trying to have conversations with a couple of men I met through a Catholic singles website. And I feel completely stupid. I don’t know what to say. If I were just having a conversation with a stranger, it would be no big deal, but because I met these men on a “single’s site” I’m all muddled.
I also feel pretty dumb about how to progress in these relationships. This isn’t dating or courting, just getting to know a couple other single Catholics in the area. I’ve read Father Morrow’s Christian Courtship in an Oversexed World and am now reading The Thrill of the Chaste by Dawn Eden. Both excellent books with excellent advice for us older folks discerning God’s call in their lives – and doing that chastely!
So here’s my question: What are good topics for those early conversations? And what questions do you ask to get to those conversation topics?** And what topics should absolutely be avoided?**
I’m looking for topics that have some depth to them, but not ones that would be better left for when the relationship develops into courtship. That is, I’m not wanting to get into the details of anyone’s unchaste past.
All my previous “dating” experience was with men I already knew, so meeting men who are complete strangers, who are also “looking” is just throwing me for a loop.
Thanks and God bless you.