[quote=Orionthehunter]I’m not sure why you are meeting with him. If it is just a courtesy, you don’t have to have an argument with him. Just inform him of your decision, thank him for the role he played in your faith development and ask him to pray for you as you continue in your faith journey.
If the purpose is to “make sure” you are doing the right thing, this is a matter for which a proper response would be very long. To paraphrase what that response would be, I think you need to approach the meeting in a discerning mood such that you are less interested in arguing but listening intently and then taking the information to prayer and learning outside your meeting with him.
If the purpose is to convert him or otherwise convince him you are making the right decision, I doubt you would be effective. Furthermore, when one is very studied yet committed to a particular “theology”, it is unlikely that information will convert him but will be the work of the Holy Spirit (ala Scott Hahn).
These are nice categories, but it’s hard to specify which one exactly this meeting fits into.
I suppose the main reason is courtesy. Not to him. He is not my pastor. It is a courtesy to my wife. She is not excited about me becoming catholic. I want to show her that I am taking my time, that I am taking the issues seriously, and am willing to discuss them with men I respect like my dad, and this man, her old pastor, whom she has looked up to since she was 13.
I really appreciate everyone’s responses so far. After reading them, I think I might not bring him any materials, and avoid trying to convert him or change his mind. Though I really just wanted to pique his interest.
What I’ll probably do is just tell him how I’ve come to this place. We’ll see what his response is and go from there. If he starts challenging me, I won’t be able to argue much and I don’t get carried away with arguments that are above me. I predict that after hearing what I’ll say, he’ll express some concerns about the Catholic Church, and maybe about my personality. I’ll respond to what I can, and we’ll go from there.
For those who don’t think I should do it at all, besides the above reason of honoring my wife, I also need it myself. I need to make the jump from internet conversion to real life conversion. It’s one thing to say I’m becoming catholic as RonRule (not my real name). It’s another to actually say it to family, friends, and reformed baptist pastors.
thanks again everybody.