[quote="CatherineStein, post:1, topic:244237"]
My father died recently and we intended to have a memorial for him at the church were he was a parishoner for decades. When I called today I was advised that they don't do such a thing and that the best they could do was mention his name for $10.00 at any of the 8:00am regular masses - but that they were sold out at this time. I'm a little confused as to how to proceed to get a proper mass or service arranged for my father and his relatives. If it makes a difference we are traveling back to Illinois with his ashes. Thank you!
I am so sorry for the loss of your father. Please accept my condolences.
Perhaps the information found at the following link will be helpful to you. It is for a particular parish, but from a quick read, it appears to contain good information regarding Catholic funeral and memorial Masses.
Questions Regarding Funerals, Cremations and Memorial Masses
Also, perhaps the following CAF thread will be helpful to you. The concerns expressed in it are not exactly the same as yours, i.e., we already know your father has been cremated so his body cannot be present and it would be a memorial Mass rather than a funeral Mass, but some of the posts in the thread still might prove helpful to you if you read it.
For a Catholic Funeral Mass, does the deceased’s body need to be present?
I'll keep looking for other threads on CAF that may be helpful to you.