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"What did you mean by that?" Real Julianne thanks for asking and please know that I do agree with you that no one can replace an involved dad's unique roll but a lot of us gals sure have to take a darned good stab at it when life throws the old curve ball. ;)
Sweeping statements like: "Boys who do not get love, warmth, protection, guidance, and affirmation from their fathers tend to become more violent and sexually opportunistic because they are seeking to prove their masculinity to the world."
Another sweeping statement: "Girls who do not get love, respect, care and protection from their fathers will desperately look for it from other males. This moves them toward being party girls and desperate sexual utilities for endless opportunistic boys. Mothers can play a role here, but no one can replace dad’s unique role."
And then this: "Truly open minded people shouldn't be offended by the thread." :cool:
Don't be so open minded that your brains fall out.
First of all, I happen to have raised a son on my own. I have a big news flash for you, he isn't a gang member and he doesn't believe in pre-marital sex. He's too busy holding down 2 jobs and going to school for computer science.
I was also raised by a single Mother along with my 3 siblings. Not one of us turned out to be party girls or sexual utilities for endless opportunistic boys.
I'd like to know---where are all these fabulous Fathers everyone keeps talking about that are always there for their families? Have you not been reading all the threads that complain about cheating husbands, porn addicted men, husbands hanging out in nude bars, abusive husbands, the list goes on.
Every now and again we will get a man that proclaims to be a good husband and father and we all clap and cheer and we all pat him on the back. Why? This should be expected of men and it should be the norm. We shouldn't have to set off fire works because some husband allows his wife to go to Mass, or shopping, and he actually stays home to "baby sit the kids".
There are plenty that were raised in a home with only female influence and they seemed to have grown up ok.
Those quotes are just a tad too sweeping for me and I am noticing threads that do try to divide and cause friction.
Kudos to you for raising your son to be an upstanding man! It's not easy in the culture we have now or for the last 40 years.
I don't understand why women get so defensive about these threads! Men want to be a stronger force in the culture - why is that a threat to you? Really, what does it have to do with you or your life at all?
Go to the prisons and see how many of the inmates had fathers in the home. There is essentially no black family to speak of any more. That's what the culture has done to black Americans - destroyed what used to be VERY strong, faith-based families.
What I seem to be seeing on these threads are women with their panties in a wad, getting all offended because general statements are being made about society. Just because you or I have done things better, or you or I know x amount of people who are different, does not mean that a general statement is wrong! There are exceptions to a rule, but that does not mean that the rule does not exist.
How can a boy learn to be a man without any honorable male influence? Did your son have a grandfather, an uncle, teachers, scout leaders, youth group leaders, to help him learn how to be a man? If not, then he truly is a miracle. Can a boy learn to be a man by watching television? What does he absorb? That people of his gender are STUPID! Idiots! Fools! Deserve whatever ridicule they get! I get very angry when I see how men are portrayed in sit-coms, and especially in commercials. There's one right now for Tide, where the dad sees a tiny white miniskirt hanging on the clothesline, he makes a face, then uses it to wipe the grease off his hands and throws it in the hamper. Then his teenage strumpet finds it and takes it to mom, and they use Tide to clean it. Dad says nothing as daughter parades out of the house wearing this strip of cloth barely covering her backside. Disgusting!
Why can't moms just let the men BE themselves and if they want to talk about manning up, SUPPORT THEM???