First, I want to say that I do not want this to be a male bashing thread.
I have however seen a pattern both in my life and in the life of friends. We are told (recently even when Jason Evert was on), that if we hold men to high standards, they will meet them. Well, they haven't. Only a few have, compared to the general Catholic population. And they are married. There are also countless single women who can testify that their men don't meet the standards but rather find a woman who will not follow the Church's teachings.
Then, I had an argument about contraception and tried to explain NFP, and finally my friend said in exasperation that it doesn't work. She cited how she knew many who tried it and still got pregnant. And, she added that their husbands refuse to abstain and since they won't cooperate, a woman does not have a choice but to use contraception, because he will leave, or find a girlfriend. And then I see that that is exactly what happens (three recent cases where the man found a girlfriend because the wife insisted on NFP).
We try to defend the Church's teaching, but don't see a lot of cooperation from our male counterparts.
How does a woman not get discouraged or cynical when faced with this? How can we respect men when faced with this? I want to respect them!