Complicated questions looking for some feedback and advice.
My husband’s first marriage was annulled and on the decree it stated canon law 1095.3 “not capable of assuming the essential obligations of matrimony due to causes of a psychic nature”. A vetitum was also placed on my husband.
Concerned about this I brought it to a trusted pastor who is a canon lawyer and he warned me of the severity of it and requested my then fiance allow him to review the file and read the testimony to get a better idea of what is going on. When I mentioned that to my now husband, he was upset that I went to see the pastor without him and said he wanted to go directly to the tribunal. We went and spoke the judge who rendered the decision. He said my pastor was being to legalistic in his review and that due to my husband’s difficult past (he had a hard childhood and went to prison prior to his reversion to the Catholic faith) a witness wanted to make sure I was aware of his issues.
Now, I’ve only been married less than a month and my husband hasn’t received a formal diagnosis, but he is showing (and has always shown to some degree in hindsight) symptoms of and labeled as borderline personality disorder. Life has been a nightmare since only 2 days after the wedding. When’s he’s good, he’s great, but if he feels slighted he’s controlling, manipulative, emotionally/verbally abusive, hot tempered. I’m thinking my pastor was correct from the beginning and I’m not sure why the judge who rendered the decision downplayed it.
I’ll stand by him if he’s receptive to treatment and therapy since the prognosis is good. If not, do you think another annulment would be granted???
Thank you in advance.