Okay, I’m probably opening myself up to a big flame here, but I am curious, as I know the stances of several other faiths on this but not my own. Is mental illness enough of a reason for a Catholic to remain childfree?
I have Tourette’s Syndrome, and while I’ve really been coming into my own lately and getting everything together in my life, I still do not handle stress well. (I had to start an at-home business because of stress making it nearly impossible for me to work the 9 to 5 way) I also do not handle sleep deprivation very well. And at times I can have a bit of a temper.
Personally, I don’t think I’m fit to be a mother and my own mother shares this same belief. (She’s also Catholic) I’m 27 and have never had children, so permanent means of contraception aren’t easy to get at this point in my life. After I get married, I will try to find a doctor who will do a tubal ligation. It is a little extreme, yes, but I already had one pregnancy scare when I was 17. Well, it wasn’t a scare…it was a pregnancy. I miscarried around eight weeks. I was prepared to love the baby and be a good mother to it, because I am strongly pro-life, but I never want to put myself in that situation again if I can help it.
So if I don’t want/shouldn’t have kids, then I am required to be abstient for the rest of my life? And never marry? I don’t think that seems very fair, to be completely honest. I have been abstinent since the miscarriage, ten years now, but that’s more, honestly, of a love/trust issue for me, as I was sexually abused as a child.
This is a major problem for me and my faith. I wish it wasn’t, but I’ve worked really hard to get myself together. I’m not going to throw that away. Plus I do fear, that faced with terrible sleep deprivation and a screaming baby, I could lash out without ever intending to. I mean, I’m a great mother to my doggie, but I can put him in a cage when he’s bad and step back from the situation. If you put kids in a cage, well, that’s a call from CPS waiting to happen. Not cool. No kid deserves that. So I think me staying childfree is a win/win situation for both me AND any possible kidlets.
Anyways…thought I would put this out there. Opinions?