Please don’t start off with “I’m so sorry”. I only want valid advice or sharing. I also hate it when people say to me “thank you for your service” when they discover I was military. It comes across shallow and disingenuous. I like and need to keep things real.
Does anyone on here have a spouse that suffers from some sort of mild mental health issues that causes lots of unnecessary stress? PTSD, Depression, medication (won’t take it on their own), disagrees with things that seem rational parenting, go to bed on time, eat right, exercise, etc. I added the last few because they are important aspects for maintaining and improving good mental health in people that suffer with depression and anxiety disorders.
Things got so rough on me in 1998 that I started taking medication to help me deal with the stress of it all. Before she got worse I didn’t need medication. But it’s gotten so difficult that I’ve found myself depending more on it. I hate the headaches I get from it. But I will continue to take it as needed.
The real reason I resigned from a job was to help take better care of our children and take off more stress from her. A few years ago she decided to get a job teaching and that put so much extra stress on our family because our basic needs went without being filled for over a year. It was obvious the children were feeling neglected and I just couldn’t handle the mandatory overtime from my job and support the family needs (cooking, cleaning, etc.). But last night my daughter started crying saying “mommy doesn’t love me” after trying to get her attention. This has been going on for so long and my wife won’t take the time to feed her attention or at least teach her to handle less attention. My problem with all of this is that my wife spends way too much time on social networks and emailing our pastor and texting her students and other teachers.
I could care less that she does this but I’m really concerned about the long term effects on our children and our own relationship. I’m not a jealous person, but would like her to pay more attention to even me, not just our children. But our children come first. This is the real reason I’m even on the social media - trying to understand it better and be part of my wife’s new world. I feared losing her because of her insistence in participating on the social media. I’m winging it through this and don’t have a support system to get through it. And, yes, I’ve already tried talking to her over the past several years since it began. She is stubborn or really more ill than I originally thought. It doesn’t make sense to me anymore.
So, does anyone know of a support group that I could participate in without ticking my wife off.