Hi. I recently began corresponding with a man I “met” through a website for Catholic singles. I’ve spoken with him on the phone once, and it was a lovely conversation, which he ended with prayer. Seems like a good man.
My friends are telling me to meet him as soon as possible to avoid creating a “fantasy relationship.” While I agree that it is easy to create all sorts of things that aren’t real about a person I’ve never met face to face, this man and I have the reality of living over 500 miles from each other. Therefore, meeting in person, should we ever choose to do that, will be a rather significant commitment of time and money.
So, what are your recommendations for keeping this real? I think we should only talk on the phone once a week at most. What sort of topics would be appropriate for two people who are little more than strangers, but who are seeking God’s will for the relationship?
I’ve spoken with and/or met a few men in my area who I met on the same site, but this is the first one who is not from my area.
Thanks for the advice.