I was at a community center for a card party last weekend. I bumped into a lady I know. I don't know how the topic got started but she asked me if I would like to marry not to have kids but a companion. She knows I am 41. I replied,
me: 'Yes if I meet a nice guy but at my age all men are divorced'
her : 'That doesn't matter'
me: 'I am Catholic and I don't want to marry a divorced man'
her: ' lots of Catholics do it. I am very Catholic and see nothing wrong with it'
me: 'lots of Catholics have second marriages but those are not in the Catholic church. They usually are at city hall'
her: 'No they aren't, I am very Catholic and I know lots of people who do it'
Me: 'Well they must have had an annulment'
Her: 'Yes they are easy to get you just need to pay'
Me: 'You can pay off a priest, you can not pay off God'
Her; 'I know an eye surgeon who put an add on e harmony he has 2 kids, is divorced and met a nice woman and is happily married to her now'
Me: 'I want to live a Catholic lifestyle. I do not wish to date a divorced man'
her; 'Find then have your lifestyle' in an angry tone of voice
In the past I would have thought that since God allows her free will, I must also respect her choices and live and let live and not judge. However, I lfet that conversation a bit saddend. No wonder society thinks the church is hypocrites if the majority of people who were baptized yet never attend church make statements such as 'I am very Catholic and trust me there is nothing wrong with disobeying the church'. I am only left to hope that people will not remember her loud voice but my quiet way of refusing to sin
Second. I went to visit a priest who is in an old folks home. The attendent came in and called him 'John',
I said 'His name is Father Smith'
Attendant : His name is John
me : his name is Father Smith
Attendant 'His name is John
Me: Please show respect
Attendant : Ok, then Mr. Smith
Later on my way out I saw the attendant on his lunch break
Me: 'Please, when I am around don't call him John. He means the world to me and is dying
Attendant 'Do you Catholics find it offensive'
Me: He is 94 respect is in order
Attendant : 'I treat everyone here as equals'
Me : Religion isn't the issue respect is
Attendant 'If it means that much too you I won't do it in front of you
Not sure what I said but left before taking out all my hurt over watching a goof friend dying on the attendant. Then all I could think is 'Why is religion the issue. If someone from a different religion had a certain title because of the status in that religion, I would have no problem calling them by their title. It is not a betrayal of my religious beliefs, it is a sign of my respect for others.
I have to wonder what was so hard for this guy? My friend use to be in the Catholic hospital and I saw all the nurses call him John!
Just rambling, feel free to share any comments