Hi! I’m recently engaged to be married, and I signed up to learn more about the rules surrounding mixed marriages and similar issues. I’m an agnostic/atheist Jew who sometimes impersonates an Evangelical preacher when I’ve had too much to drink; my fiancée is a reasonably devout lifelong Catholic although she disagrees with the Roman Curia on contraception, abortion, ordination of female priests, obligatory priestly celibacy, papal infallibility, laws against divorce and remarriage, denial of open communion to Orthodox Christians, and probably two dozen other issues. Still, it’s important to her and her family that she marry in the Church, and I have no objection to doing so. (I speak for her since she is Peruvian and speaks hardly a word of English.)
I believe that all religions are ways of understanding the universe and the divine, and that all contain much that is true but also much that is false. For that reason I do not claim belief in any particular doctrine or denomination. I am, however, deeply interested in religion and theology, and have previously studied Jewish, Islamic and Mormon theology in an organized setting, and am currently reading the Bhagavad Gita. Although I have no intention of ever converting, we have agreed that I will attend RCIA/theology classes for at least a full year following the marriage (I intend to do the same at some point in both a Protestant and an Orthodox church as well.) I will also wholeheartedly support her should she decide to raise any future children within the Catholic Church. In return, she has agreed to learn more about all the important world religions (which she’s had virtually no exposure to throughout her life), and that any kids should also have such exposure from a young age. She’s also in agreement that she will love and support our potential child equally should he or she turn out to be Catholic, atheist, Muslim, gay, or all of the above.
We have a preliminary meeting with her (very conservative, Opus Dei) priest next week to discuss our plans to marry. All he knows about me at this point is that I’m Jewish but not religious, but he likes me because he sees me at Mass with my fiancée and he’s told her that he sees no reason why we shouldn’t be able to marry. This kind of surprised me because of his Opus Dei connection and because, unlike in the States, Catholic intermarriages with non-Christians are almost unheard of in Peru.
Does anybody have any idea what types of questions are normally asked at such meetings, and the process whereby a dispensation is granted? Or any other comments relating to any other part of my post?
Sorry for the long post, and thank you all for your thoughts!