I’d like a “reality check” before I potentially voice a concern to our youth director or pastor. Sometimes I tend to be a lot more conservative than most other parents.
Our parish is hosting a ‘youth rally’ this summer for kids going into 5th and 6th grade (about 70 kids). It will be followed by a ‘lock-in sleepover’ in a neighboring school. Instead of having the boys and girls sleep in different rooms our youth director has opted for them all to sleep in the gym - boys on one half, girls on the other. They will be the only ones in the school that night and have access to the entire school, so they do have the option of putting boys and girls in separate rooms. When I heard this I casually asked our youth director - “do you think that’s okay?”. He said he did because most kids typically bring shorts or sweats to sleep in, with t-shirts (no pajamas), and it will be easier if everyone is in one room. I let it go at that until I could think about it more.
I guess I’ve always thought of ‘sleeping’ as a personal thing, regardless of what you’re wearing. To me, boys and girls at this age (11 and 12) shouldn’t be sleeping in the same room, to begin teaching modesty and appropriate behavior. But then again, it is a fairly good sized gym and there will be quite a bit of space in between the boys and girls (I suspect).
Can you all share your thoughts on this situation with me? What do you think? Would you raise a concern? Would you let your 11 or 12 year old go?