Modesty is a very taboo topic in today’s society, believe it or not. We think we are so “open” and can freely discuss same-sex marriage, contraception, masturbation and all the rest. Yet, I remember being really surprised that a subject like “modesty” could be so controversial.
If you try to speak to someone on modesty, unless you have a very strong friendship, you could expect to be possibly accused of everything from being judgmental to being prideful, to get off your high horse, so to speak.
Most people don’t do well with unsolicited advice, no matter how well intended. Many become defensive, even hostile and aggressive.
As to modesty, start a thread on it, and I can almost guarantee you it will end up in a fight!
I’ve had it where someone will start a thread, on this Catholic forum, asking for advice, or opinions, on modesty. When I answer, I get told I’m judgmental, to mind my own business. In other words, who asked for my opinion!
Well, to me, modesty seemed sort of like a no-brainer. We have the Bible, the Church, the Catechism of the Catholic Church, priests, popes, and saints all backing us up. Yet, if you were to even so much as mention the word, in that particular circumstance, you might be risking your friendship.
Further, people say the don’t know what they word means, saying it could really be interpreted to mean almost anything, so use this as an excuse to throw up their hands and give up and dress, or undress, however he/she pleases.
That’s just exactly how far afield we have gone.
We have some Catholics which, despite all the above, think all kinds of things are acceptable right down to toplessness for women.
Some believe that “Everybody else is doing it” constitutes a valid excuse, but by judging how the Jews who adopted pagan customs were punished by God for doing so, I don’t think that excuse will “hold water” on judgment day.
Sadly, many people today would much rather risk eternal hell fire and damnation than hear advice on modesty or the Church’s teachings, much less have the humility to accept correction.