I’ve been reading & posting here for a while now & I keep reading threads about modesty and clothing. I’m wondering where the general line is between modest, but flirty or modest, but flattering and immodest.
I tend to wear clothes that are my size to a size larger b/c I’m more about comfort than beauty (I also don’t wear make-up or fix my hair much b/c I don’t care that much - neither does my husband). However, in these days of stretch jeans & shirts, even that doesn’t necessarily make things loose. Its also not my intention to hide the beauty of shape God gave me. Tailored/fitted outfits are flattering and make up a large portion of my wardrobe. In other words, I do have some outfits that cling in all the right places & accentuate/highlight the positive aspects of my body. These same bodily aspects are generally considered attractive by men - breast, waist, hips, & legs. I consider this clothing to be modest & flirty &/or flattering. However, from reading some discussions here, apparently some would consider me the immodest for wearing these outfits.
Doesn’t God call us to use the talents/gifts He gave us to proclaim His goodness & glory? When I wear something that fits me just right I feel that I am showing the world what God gave me and my portrayal/bearing while wearing such is what makes it modest or immodest. I can be wearing something completely covering me & still, if I behave immodestly or someone thinks immodestly about me, the result is still the same. I think parents need to teach their children more than ‘cover up your body’. Instead they need to teach them how to behave modestly regardless of their clothing, surroundings, or temptations. Isn’t that where the emphasis needs to be rather than restricting clothing?