I need some help explaining a few things to a friend of mine. She is a Christian, but not a Catholic, so I have found it a little difficult to explain some things. Here are the two questions I need help answering:
Why is it wrong to “check-out” members of the opposite sex? My friend thinks it is natural for a person to check-out members of the opposite sex. While I think being attracted to members of the opposite sex is natural and good, I don’t think it is right to ogle them. How can I explain to her that she needs to be looking at the whole person, and that zero-ing in on certain physical characteristics of a person (and commenting on them) is wrong?
Why dress modestly? Why is it wrong to dress to impress guys? My friend finds it pleasing and nice when guys “check her out”. She thinks it is unnatural that I don’t enjoy that type of attention. How can I explain to her that I liked being seen as pretty but not sexy.
I don’t want to come across as self-repressing and prudish in this area. I need some help explaining why I’m not prudish but modest. And why modesty is a **good **and **natural **thing. I’d appreciate your two cents!