My Mom passed away last April and my Father was devastated. But now he has taken up with an old friend and they are planning on getting married next June.
Quite honestly, the most difficult part of my Mother’s death was seeing my Father’s grief. He took care of her for three years; she died at home and he made that possible. He very rarely left her side. I don’t want him to be lonely and grief stricken forever. But somehow this seems wrong and on a gut level, I can’t accept what he is about to do.
If I made a stand and started spouting off my opinions about the whole deal, I think it would only serve to alienate me from him and the rest of the family. He’s going to marry her whether his kids are on board or not. Problem is I am having a really hard time coping. I pretend to be open minded and accepting when he is around but on the inside I feel like I am dying.
The icing on the cake is he told me today that he wants my sister and I to stand up for them in the wedding. My sister and I were trying to figure out how we were going to emotionally be able to even attend the wedding. The thought of being a bridesmaid just makes me feel nausiated.
I like some advice on coping strategies. I feel like I am between a rock and a hard place.