Honestly, the question I would have would be. Did I raise my daughter to be capable enough to have these concerns for herself by the time she comes of age?
I’m not trying to be snarky, it’s a very real concern that I would have. Because there is no amount of ‘looking out’ for someone’s best interests if she isn’t capable of looking out for them herself.
At our first appointment for marriage with our priest, he told us that he doesn’t deal with parents. If we are old enough to marry then we are old enough to be engaged without our parents holding our hands.
I totally agree with him.
It’s natural for a parent to have concerns and worries, but the biggest job is to help them think for themselves by the time they should be out of the nest.
Unless the future potential fiance raises big red flags in behavior then I would trust the daughter’s judgement. imho