Mom's Homophobic Response To Gay Dads' Birthday Invite Was A Radio Show Hoax


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[size=]Mom’s Homophobic Response To Gay Dads’ Birthday Invite Was A Radio Show Hoax[/size]

The alleged homophobic note sent by a mother in response to a birthday invite from two gay dads was apparently all just a hoax concocted by a local New York radio station.
Earlier this week, the story of two gay dads from Baldwin, N.Y., went viral after Long Island’s K-98.3 publicized a supposedly bigoted note from the mother of a boy invited to their daughter’s birthday party. The note read: “Tommy will NOT attend. I do not believe in what you do and will not subject my innocent son to your ‘lifestyle.’ I’m sorry Sophia has to grow up this way. If you have an issue or need to speak to me: [number erased].”

The note was posted to the station’s Facebook page Wednesday. Readers expressed their disgust and offered support to the same-sex parents. It was shared across the Internet and covered by the media.

Now, the entire incident has been revealed as a hoax drummed up by K-98.3’s Steve Harper and his “Morning Show” co-host, Leeana. The two posted an apology note on the station’s website Friday.
“This story was, in fact, totally fictitious, and created by the two of us. This was done without the knowledge of K-98.3 management or ownership,” they wrote. “We were attempting to spur a healthy discourse on a highly passionate topic, but we made a mistake by misleading our listeners into thinking that this specific situation actually existed.”

Gee, what a surprise.
Of course, the story has entered the collective consciousness and the retraction never reaches as many people as the original story.


They should be canned, otherwise they make it appear as if a lie is no longer wrong.


Sad thing is, there are people who would actually write that note. You can politely deny the invite and leave it at that. I can’t stand rudeness.


Even if the story were true, so what? Would it be tasteless? Of course. Homophobic? Maybe, depends. Something to make the news? No. Worse notes have been passed with nary a news story.

This is not the first time something like this had been done. People push the edge every day and once the damage is done, it can’t be undone.


Or simply just not respond.


Social etiquette would dictate that one should always RSVP; even if it is a no. A polite, " we won’t be able to make it," is perfectly fine.


I’m not saying that there aren’t some who hate homosexuals and tread them badly, but if persecution against homosexuals were so pervasive the political activists wouldn’t need to manufacture hoax after hoax the way they’ve been doing. Christianity has been around for 2,000 years, and we’ve never had to fake being persecuted. A Christian has to be beheaded for their faith before people will consider it persecution whereas getting offended is considered persecution for everyone else.


Of course. I didn’t mean to imply it wouldn’t. I was just offering an alternative.


Sounds like the two on air humans have alot of growing up to do, :shrug: (like most of us).


Even sadder, there are two men pretending to be married and having a party for children.


With every single one of these recent “gay-bashing” incidents raising such an outcry while being a hoax, how is it that we haven’t heard of a single real instance in the past couple years? Activists would have us believe that such things are common. If that’s true, why haven’t we heard about them?


I’m just Mrs. Manners. lol.


I think both are the same amount of sadness. While I don’t agree with that lifestyle, I also don’t agree with other parents being ugly; it sets a bad example for children. If you don’t want your children around certain families ( this includes the drunk parents who fight every weekend, the parents that are known for doing drugs, etc.) then a polite, “no we can’t make it to the party, but maybe Suzie can come to our house next weekend,” That way the child with the hard life can maybe have a bit of normalcy.


Neither is good. But one is rudeness and uncharitability; the other is attempting to buck natural law, flipping off the Lord with respect to the gift he gave us in marriage, and is also public promotion of a disordered lifestyle as healthy and normal, to children no less, the most innocent among us.

I don’t think spitting on someone or showing children pornography is good either, but the two are obviously not comparable in scope and gravity. Spitting is foul and rude; the latter is something conceived in the mind of Satan.

That said, we can avoid both things in the hoax; it isn’t an either or situation, and in the end, there was no lack of civility except from the pro-homosexual DJs.


I said that I didn’t agree with the SSM lifestyle, that still doesn’t give me the right to be rude, even if being rude is less bad. Teaching children, who are the most innocent, that being ugly to sinners is not as bad is also, in my opinion wrong. :shrug: I don’t understand the issue you have with my post.


Nothing, other than you focused on the rude reply, which I found odd, juxtaposed with the greater horror of the sham marriage.

I did use the word “sadder” which implies I find rudeness sad. but inherently evil manipulations of God’s gifts to be diabolical and far beyond simply being rude.


It’s a proven fact that there are sinners of all types in this world. No, I don’t think that those in a SSM should parent, but that doesn’t give some random parent the right to be rude. It does no good. Both are sad, both are wrong. Period. It isn’t odd that I find rudeness well, rude. I was taught to have tact and manners. I understand that this particular letter was a hoax, but people do say and write these things. It’s hateful. “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” These gay parents may not even be lapsed Christians, so saying that they are shamming marriage will probably only make them angry, not convert them. :shrug:


Ummm, I am not trying to convert the gay parents, I am conversing on Catholic Answers. If any of us were serious about conversion, we likely wouldn’t be pursuing it in cyberspace.

I think I agreed with you that rudeness was wrong, I merely stated MY thoughts on the situation, regardless of how you felt. I am not sure why you keep mentioning manners and how you were raised and whatnot, since no one is disagreeing with you. I am merely pointing out what disturbed me most about the whole situation, which has nothing to do with how you feel, so please don’t take it that way.


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