Since I complained in my other post about how I live under my dad’s roof rent free. It’s cultural thing I don’t move out and children are taken care of until they wed, at least women are. We don’t charge our children for rent. Every now and then our father asks us to borrow money and never pays it back. What bothers me is that I work part time, I haven’t been able to find a full time job for a year. I contribute monthly to car payments and to insurance. I still pay for my clothes, feminine necessities, school stuff.
So I especially get annoyed when my father asks to borrow money from my youngest brother. His money is birthday and Christmas money. He’s in high school, he doesn’t work. If I was making more money, I wouldn’t mind. I actually don’t care if he borrows money from me most of the time. I haven’t been able to work for reasons I choose not to disclose online. Something bad happened. I hope I qualify for disability. I’m going into the hundreds in my bank account. If I go broke, I don’t want to go back to asking my father for money for things.
It’s always bothered me because my father discouraged us from working during high school and college. He has never paid me back. He used to borrow our allowance, birthday money and Christmas money as kids. My allowance money came from our mother. He refused to ever give us allowance money. Some Christmas he gave us money to put in the bank. It’s the spare money we get from others he takes.
Not only this I’m recently angry I gave my father sixty dollars for groceries and he still asked my sister to spend her own money for it.
If I were to ask him for a five, he’d lecture me on being responsible , to always carry cash, and to pay him back promptly. When does pay back, it’s never the full amount. Most times he doesn’t.