[quote="rayne89, post:10, topic:239983"]
I am a bit confused too. I'm heterosexual & married. Does that mean any other man that walks the face of the earth isn't attractive anymore? Of course not. If I was bisexual, as a married woman, why it would it be different except that I find more people attractive? I still found the one I want to be with, still married to the love of my life -so while I can appreciate a handsome man, I have no inclination to act on that.
I'm assuming since you say you are bisexual, sex with either gender is satisfactory unlike a person with exclusive same sex attraction where temptation would seem much higher. So what are you looking for in a bisexual support group? Just people who understand? You say you only have your husband to talk to about it. As a married woman I think the best person to talk about sexual matters is your husband.
I am looking for a bisexual support group to not only find ways of coping, but finding people who can relate and not make unjust assumptions.
[quote="agapewolf, post:11, topic:239983"]
The problem with this whole thing is that "homosexuality" and "bisexuality" and "whatever else sexuality" is being normalized as part of who a person is. This is not church teaching or accurate.
The word "homosexuality" was a made up term in the 20th century to normalize sin. It doesn't even make sense. Sexuality means "difference". Sex is not first a verb. Sexuality is who we are, male or female. "homo" means same. So "homosexuality" says "same different" Heterosexuality means "different different". This doesn't make sense.
Instead, each person is a male or female, created completely good by God. We have dysfunctions/sins/disorders in our life. One of those may be struggling with same sex attraction...to however a degree. Remember, this is NOT normal or ordered, it is a disorder. *Even if a person keeps attraction to both sexes, this is still the same nature of a disorder. * However this attraction came about... through relational with parents (Which is the most common way), abuse, or even genetically pre-disposed to it (which has not been proven) or a mixture of them, it is still not who a person "is". When we have a disorder, we should be working to heal the source of the disorder, NOT normalizing it. The church is right to not separate "bisexual" support group from "homosexual" support group.
TOB healing center can help with this. I highly recommend them. TOBhealing.com
First of all the church has no stance on what causes the same-sex attraction, just that it is a disorder. I am not asking for the church to normalize or give the ok to anything. I am looking for people who understand and can relate. When there is prejudice prevalent in the homosexual community towards bisexuals, then why would I feel comfortable opening up to them? People need to read my post.
[quote="Monicad, post:14, topic:239983"]
Thank you for coming here and sharing your story! I am so happy you are part of the Catholic church! It is good you came here seeking support that is wonderful!
You seem to be suffering two things, one is that you are suffering temptation. The other is you are suffering because it seems that you desire to be understood and are frustrated by the lack of compassion and understanding you have been shown. I am so sorry for this please be assured of my prayers.
While I am sad that you are unable to find a specific group addressing your specific needs and I wish I could help with that...what I can offer you is that there are many prayers and spiritual exercises that can help us with temptation and also frustration...in whatever form it takes.
I am not trying to be insensitive to your needs, however since you are seeking specific group support and I cannot offer you that I would like to offer you this: It is clear you are facing temptations that are difficult and you need help to manage them! I can assure you that you are NOT ALONE! Please try and find good spiritual reading and good spiritual direction that are geared towards fighting temptation. The sacramentals can be wonderful such as blessed salt and holy water.
Anyone facing any kind of temptation can benefit from these! People tempted by drugs, or pornography, or same-sex attraction, or opposite-sex attraction or violence....simply bless yourself with Holy Water and ask Jesus to help you fight the thoughts that are tormenting you. Recite the Holy Name of Jesus over and over. Simply say Jesus...Jesus...Jesus...Jesus. I am not trying to minimize your situation. Clearly you are feeling alone and seeking understanding and help. Jesus Christ knows exactly what you are going through and seeks to help you. Since you can't find a support group just now please turn to Jesus more deeply. He loves you so very much and knows how much you are suffering with this temptation.
You are feeling misunderstood, Jesus too was misunderstood. You are feeling a lack of friendship and compassion, Jesus too was turned away by his friends and knows what it is like to be shown no compassion. This is a cross you are bearing, it is a heavy one and Jesus knows what that is like too. When you are faced with people who are judgmental and critical of people suffering with bisexuality attraction try this prayer "Jesus right now this person is hurting me and frustrating me, please help me to have love in my heart. I know too that I have hurt you Jesus and that I frustrate you too by my sins. Please help me to grow in Christian love."
I hope this helps a little, please take care as best as you can.
Thanks for your love and compassion. Thank you for offering some solutions instead of just trying to discredit everything I say.