I'm becoming Catholic on Easter and I'm getting married in June (yay!!). I got off of the Pill last May and we took an NFP class in August and are really looking forward to NOT using ABC (yay!!). When we started dating, we were both agnostic so a lot of conversion has gone on in the past two years. I do admit to living together (in my mother's house, with my 5yo daughter from a previous relationship and with my 19yo cousin) but we are practicing chastity 100% since our conversion. I finished college, but I got a crummy job and there seems to be nothing better out there right now. My fiance is still in college and has about 2yrs left to go untill he gets his B.S. in Comp. Sci. and I hope he has better luck finding a good job. We want a LOT of kids. As many as we can possibly afford. And when we're fertile no more we'd love to adopt. (I'm of the mentality that if a family is in the single digits, it's not big LOL). Call me naive, I guess. lol Anyway, I want to be a stay at home mom, but we really think it's better for him to finish college (hoping that he'll get a better paying job than he would if he dropped out now) before I quit my current job. How we wish we could get started on having babies from the get go!!!! However, from the circumstances it seems that it would be imprudent. Mainly because we live in my mother's house, I already have one child that she is providing a roof for, and with my $12.10 an hour we don't think we could afford it unless he dropped college and started working full time. Now for my question:
Is it moral to use NFP even on the honeymoon? I think many Catholics think that there is nothing immoral about useing NFP during the honeymoon. But I've also read the dissenting option. It seems some believe that if you are not ready to have children at that moment then you're not ready to get married. I would like to hear from those who think this way and ask them for more insight into their way of thinking. Would the more moral thing to do be to postpone our wedding until he finished college? Would the more moral thing to do be get married and have him drop college if needed if we conceive? Or would the more moral thing to do be what I'm intending (get married, use NFP if necessary on the honeymoon and for the first 1.5yrs of marriage until he finished college and gets a job)? Or is there some other moral alternative that I haven't considered? Even though I can kinda see how one shouldn't get married until they're ready to have children, I also think one shouldn't postpone an engagement for so long. I think that because of what Paul said when he wrote to the Corinthians...
1 Corinthians 7:9 (New American Standard Bible)
"But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion."