This has kind of been brought up in another thread i just cant remember where,
but if one doesnt feel comfortable in the dating world, is that something to work on before going into a religious vocation, if one has had nothing but bad experiences in dating,
and circumstances like where one lives is preventing one from having better odds of finding someone to marry, is one short changing ones self by not exploring that option ?
I mean technically one could spend their entire life before finding someone to marry and then stay single for so long and then one day, in the golden years of their life finally do marry,
or if one feels a call to a religious life, and figures I dont want to spend the rest of my life searching for someone to marry, is that mind set wrong ?
and what i find even more disturbing, is that if a man falls in love after he is ordained, his only option is to basically run away, request a transfer, pray ones feelings for the woman away, and put as many miles between him and her as possible.
though the church allows married couples to go through an annulment ?
granted in order to fall in love one would have to be seeking a relationship in the first place, so i guess the problem arises when one realizes he has stumbled into love with out actually seeking it, that is when ones only option is to stop everything, start backing out, start seeking transfers etc..
and recently a church outting for those in discernment at a public beach,
can anyone tell me how ones eyes are not supposed to wonder ? I mean plenty of places to go on an outting for fellowship, why a public beach, where there is plenty of eye candy.
one would have to be brain dead to not notice ones surroundings, and i mean admiring a persons beauty is one thing and i would guess normal, but why put anyone in a position that could start to make one second guess themself. and one could say well that is a good thing, but also, one doesnt train for a vocation of any kind by putting themself in a position that would undermind it.
do those entering into the seminary get to discuss these things ? How real are the discussions ?
but what if you just have this sinking feeling that you are going to be single for the rest of your life, and then come to the thought that perhaps this isn't a bad thing, maybe i am called to a religious life ?
I envy those who are just so overwhelmed by God to know that a religious life is their passion and calling in life, and do not question anything and are truely happy.
I have a constant tugging, moments of peace and clarity, and a ton of questions.