More view cohabitation as acceptable choice

The good news is that the US behind the curve on cohabitation. Whether or not cohabitation is actually seen as an alternative to marriage is disputable.

The National Marriage Project study of a sampling of Western European and Scandinavian nations, Australia, Canada and New Zealand found that cohabitation elsewhere is far more common and indeed viewed as an option to matrimony. The study found that anywhere from 15% to 30% of all couples identified themselves as living together, compared with about 10% right now in the USA.

The new report cites Census data showing that about 40% of all opposite-sex, unmarried couples live with their own child under 18.

“We often think of cohabitation as a phenomenon of young adulthood before people start having kids, but … as marriage is being delayed to later and later ages, more children are born before marriage, and many of the couples are cohabiting before the birth,” says R. Kelly Raley, an associate professor of sociology at the University of Texas-Austin, who did not participate in the study.

Raley isn’t convinced that cohabitation is being viewed as a marriage alternative, citing a 2001 study of her own. The evidence, she found, didn’t suggest people cohabit to start a family, which she says is what would be expected if cohabitation were considered a marriage alternative.

Lord God, please protect the Sacrament of marriage in our world.

**There’s nothing that I wouldn’t do
If you would be my POSSLQ
You live with me and I with you,
And you will be my POSSLQ.
I’ll be your friend and so much more;
That’s what a POSSLQ is for.

I will give my heart to you,

if you will be my POSSLQ.
Unless you solemnly confess,
you are really OTPOTSS.**
- Charles Osgood

Not as funny as it used to be, um?


POSSLQ explained

OTPOTSS explained

Sorry, I just don’t remember bumping into either acronym before. :blush:

My opinion on it is that more and more Catholic couples are asking themselves why go through the expense and bother of a marriage ceremony when there is a good chance that after ten years or more of marriage, a Church tribunal will declare that we were not Sacramentally married anyway in the first place. As Father Doherty quotes a Tribunal official as saying:
There is no marriage which, given a little time for investigation, we cannot declare invalid.
The statistics tell a story of their own: 9 annulmetns per year in the USA in 1930, compared with more than 60,000 marriage annulments per year in recent years in the USA.

Wow. It is sad that so many view cohabitation as an acceptable choice. I almost chose that choice once myself though so I suppose I don’t have much room to talk.

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