[quote="RebeccaJ, post:16, topic:275073"]
I have yet to figure out what person in their right mind is going to tell parents how they can raise their own children. I was raised LDS, and received an LDS baptism, because it was the wishes of my parents. I view it as it was, an act out of what my parents believed. Obviously, as an adult I don't share their beliefs.
I don't know of anyone who believes the living are the parents of the dead, with some sort of parental rights over them, with the associated decision making on behalf of ancestors, let alone, someone else's dead.
That being said, I don't view the Mormon ritual as effective at all, just a waste of time. I see all this media over their necro-baptisms as political because of Romney. If a Mormon wasn't running for president, few people would care.
The point isn't to do with telling the parents what to do, it is about the parents making a decision for the child. Even an Evangelical Christian will make this argument toward a Roman Catholic. It is good to bring up your child in the faith, but then they'll argue: shouldn't it be their decision in the end to join or reject the Catholic Church? By having them baptized, and arguably, by forcing them to have their First Communion and later Confirmation, you are making their decisions for them. You are making them Catholics without their permission, and not just being a guide toward the truth.
When you are baptized, you are on the rolls as a Catholic. There is no difference.