[quote="Karen10, post:8, topic:214175"]
Okay, twice it has been suggested that I pretty much need to "be nice" or "keep your mouth shut and smile". People, that's not my issue. I ALREADY fake niceness. I ALREADY "deal with it" and smile. There's a big difference between what I feel, and what I actually do the vast majority of the time.
I want to know how to manage being and feeling cheerful in the first place. I don't want to FIGHT grouchy tendencies, I want to REMOVE THEM and AVOID FEELING grouchy. I want to wake up feeling great and cheerful like people who don't have this problem!
And I'm in my late thirties.
Well my grouchiness usually starts in the afternoon (and heaven forbid if the kids aren't asleep by 9, grrrrr). Granted, I work in childcare so I really don't have relief from children, but I do get irritable plenty of evenings (and hide it well). Overall I'm pleasant, but sometimes I just want space. I use to sleep 10 - 12 hours a day, and I love kids, but sometimes I just want to be like the old commercial and say "Calgon, take me away".
One thing that helps me with my irritability (especially with dd who has been testing me quite frequently) is remembering those who have lost children or who can't have children or children who are neglected or abandoned by their parents. I know that may be a terrible way to approach my grumpiness, but in reality I am blessed and sometimes I forget that through the nagging, sassing, etc. Also, I remind myself that if I feel crabby, imagine how God feels everytime I sin, or am ungrateful, or do not recognize, acknowledge, and joyfully praise and thank God for all that he has given to me (even what seems like the bad). I do all that I have mentioned at least once per week.