Young children are tough.
When you get out of your routine it can be even tougher.
You have twins–which can be more work than singletons, too.
With children, if one is being particularly difficult or is ill then yes, my husband will go to Mass and I will stay home.
However, on occasion, there has been times when I felt unwell and the children had needs that were just not going to be fulfilled if my husband took off and went to Mass.
As it is, last time we had a sick kiddo, I’d already had a sleepless night so hubby did “his best” to attend Mass–which meant arriving late and leaving early.
There is a reason that the church has written in exceptions for parents! Sometimes it’s all you can do to keep them clothed and fed.