Wait, if you miss on a Sunday you go on a Monday? When? Aren’t you in school? Your father is working, what about your mother? And no, it is NOT the same.
The way that everybody wins is that people go when they are supposed to go.
As another poster noted, if your father gets paged while at Mass, HE goes. The rest of you (you and your mother) stay. Then you either have your driver or a taxi take you home if you can’t walk.
If your parents have decided to go ‘someplace’ on a Sunday, you go to the Saturday vigil and same rule as above.
If they decide to spend a week or two on vacation, you go to the nearest church THERE. Same rules.
You seem to be a very conscientious and faithful young man–good for you. Your faith and love could be what is needed for your father and mother to rekindle THEIR faith. They are of the generation that didn’t receive the best teaching in some areas and I know many of their age and even older who honestly think that Mass is ‘optional’ and can be disregarded if they have plans, are tired, want to sleep in, are ‘too busy’, etc. etc. And of course with them being your parents and you owing them obedience, naturally you’re worried that you will seem as though you are questioning their faith/intelligence when you disagree with what they say is ‘all right’. So I think you should enlist your priest ‘on your side’ and have him explain “Da Rules”.
Your parents may disagree. And as long as you are under their roof, you will have to abide if they refuse to allow YOU to go (you can’t walk, you can’t be driven, etc.) but what you do in this case is to: PRAY. Offer it up. Tell Jesus that you love Him and want to be with Him but you cannot. Ask Him to enlighten your family. Pray to the Holy Family. Pray to all the saints you can.
And while you do this, try to be as polite and respectful to your parents as possible. Model the best possible Christian behavior to them. Tell them how much you love them and how much God loves them. Try to find common ground. Ask them questions about their lives at your age (that might give you some insight as to why they feel as they do now). Tell them how much you value that they baptized you as a Catholic and gave you the faith and how much it means to you.
We’ll all be praying for you.