[quote="faithfully, post:12, topic:228880"]
The girlfriend should realize this is an excellent opportunity to see if she's dating a man worthy of marriage or a boy that lives at home with his mom.
If she's dating a man worthy of marriage, he will show her by 1)proposing 2) not investing in a situation that will tie up all his finances 3) who doesn't go off and do everything is mother says.
If she's dating a child she will find that 1)his mother still dictates his choices, 2) he's not going to be able to contribute to a home 3) there is still no ring on her finger
And although I think the mom might have raised a mama's boy, you can't blame her for the choices HE MAKES.... At some point, if you're considering a man for marriage you're going to have to agree to the fact that he's his own man... and makes his own choices. If all his choices are influneced by his mom... then I say RUN! RUN LIKE THE WIND! That will never end.
A mother should consider what's in her son's best interest. She may think her son's best interest is taking care of her, and ditching the girlfriend who she obviously doesn't consider at all.
Additionally, she may be girlfriend now. However, if he chooses to invest in this property, he owns half. If she marries him... "what's mine is yours" pretty much follows. So it's not as though they will be without assets... assets that they can sell off (as 50% shareholder) to buy their own home...
To the OP: I'm sure you're concerned for the son and his girlfriend and want what's best for their relationship. But the son has to make his own choice. We can only blame our parents for our actions for so long, and if he's in his 20s, he is old enough to make his own decisions, and will have to live with the consequences of them. If the girlfriend is upset over it, it's up to her to talk to him about it. They can settle it in whichever way they decide.
I agree that it's strange for this mother to make such a proposal. But it's not *her *fault if things don't go well once the son has made his decision. *She *isn't going to break up the son and his girlfriend over this. The son and girlfriend will either talk it out and make a good decision for them, or not talk it out and the son will make whatever decision he wants, or anything in between. It's not the mother's decision or fault.