NO WAY! Once you expose children to something, their innocence is lost forever! I do not care how old the children are, not in my house!
She may stay alone in your home or what she does at the motel is her choice. You have children to look out for. Even if she goes to the motel, your children will ask. I would probably say soemthing to, we did not have enough room here for Grandma’s guest and her, so grandma wanted to be courtious to her friend by staying at the same hotel. That way her guest will have someone to help him get around town. If they were married it would be one thing, but do not let your children be exposed to this blantant abuse of the sacrement of marriage.
I am sorry if I am coming across too sternly, but I am very concerned with how other people’s sins effect the generations of tomorrow. Most people now a days do not think about that, they only think about what is PC or what makes them happy and no one else.
Your hubby should back you 100% for the sake of his girls! WOuld he really want his daughter to bring her boyfriend over the the house for a sleep over, I mean grandma did it and he approved of her. This will only escalate when they turn 18. Just make a firm rule that only married couples share bedrooms, REGARDLESS of who they are!
For the record, I’m NOT suggesting its’ OK to let them room together – not at all. And the part of “grandma did it and he approved of her” – that’s not it at all!! Don’t let them share a room, but if she insists on it, you’ll have to send her elsewhere and if you want to be up front (with a 15yr old who is no doubt confronted with sex every day in some form or other), that would be a perfect way to explain it without demonizing the individual – i.e. love the sinner, hate the sin…and by 15, if she has ever turned on a television, glanced at a magazine cover in the supermarket, or even looked around her at school, she is no longer “innocent” to the world of sexuality that surrounds her – I’m simply suggesting that a parent might want to be up front and state unequivocally (sp?!) that
- It happens, and it will continue to happen all around us as long as Satan is around BUT
We do not have to accept it just because it is happeneing, no matter who it is that’s “doing it” – we can still take a stand for what is right.
It’s out there, and you can either pretend it’s not, shield them from all the evils of the world for as long as humanly possible and let them figure it out on their own or you can be frank and honest (I’m not talking about with a 3yr old, I’m talking about a kid who’s older and understands right and wrong a little deeper than toddler level) and tell them “this is wrong, this is why, and this is how your father and I are going to handle it”—that’s all I’m suggesting, not condoning it, or saying “it’s ok for her, but not you” – exactly the opposite; it’s never ok, and this is why…