I have been married for 15 years and my wife and have six beautiful children.
My Father in law just left my Mother in law. Basically, he said he had enough.
She is very controlling, not in a normal sense either. She will try to control every thought and word. My father in law left and basically said to my wife, that she will have to take care of her.
My mother in law has hurt me deeply. For a while, she was trying to convince my wife that I was cheating on her. She is deeply paranoid. She will not let me in her house if no one is home. Or even if she is home, I am not allowed to touch anything that belongs to her (more or less).
Besides being bossy and controlling she is extremely rude.
I could go on about things she does, but what I am trying to convey is she is not a normal person.
Her two sons could not deal with either and both moved out of state.
When my wife is with her, I am excluded from the group and now that my father in law left, that time is increasing.
Basically, she will put on a guilt trip if my wife is not with her.
So a typical Saturday (I work 60-70 hours during the week), when I able to see my wife and kids, my wife is looking to get with her, which then excludes myself.
The one thing my wife and I fight about most is her Mom.
I really feel like moving, so we can have our own lives, but I also don’t want my wife to feel like she just left her Mom like everyone else has done.
Any advice is appreciated.