"Mother's Rule of Life" : Has anyone had experience with this?


#1

Here is the link to a Zenit article from earlier this week:

zenit.org/english/

Look for:
Code: ZE05100922

Date: 2005-10-09

Living by a Mother’s Rule of Life

**Holly Pierlot on Order for the Sake of the Vocation
**

I find this fascinating. Has anyone read the book? Is it similar to the “Little Way of St. Therese”?


#2

I have read it and it is very good. I especially like her emphasis on the WHOLE person. It was difficult for me to “glean” a schedule from the way she presented it, simply because of my own learning style. I did eventually develop my own “system schedule”, and my life did become more orderly. I think it is well worth reading, and it is similar to the way of St. Therese as well as Mother Theresa, doing small acts with great love!! In fact I plan on rereading it again soon.

God bless!


#3

I read it over the summer. Like the author, I have five children that I homeschool. I have tried other ways to organize/motivate/housekeep/schedule/etc in the past to no avail. This book seems to be working for me so far, mainly because she puts the emphasis on doing daily chores to the glory of God. I, truthfully, have a long way to go, and need to keep on working at it. This way of life does not come naturally to me like it does to some people. I would much rather pick up a good book or turn on the TV than “make” my home, but I see the need to get off my butt and work harder for less chaos. Which reminds me, I should log off of these forums…:frowning:


#4

This is a very good book. I do not homeschool my school-age children but there are ways to adapt anything! Her hints apply to moms no matter what manner our children are educated.
There is no way that I organize my day to the extent that she does, but I have found that setting up a basic structure is helpful to me AND my children.
The author also has her own mothersruleoflife.com/ where she answers questions pertaining to the book.


#5

[quote=sfomom]This is a very good book. I do not homeschool my school-age children but there are ways to adapt anything! Her hints apply to moms no matter what manner our children are educated.
There is no way that I organize my day to the extent that she does, but I have found that setting up a basic structure is helpful to me AND my children.
The author also has her own mothersruleoflife.com/ where she answers questions pertaining to the book.
[/quote]

I couldn’t get the link to work. Is it in another domain?


#6

I just finished reading it on the recommendation from some friends. It is wonderful but a bit daunting when first starting out. The schedule is a big part, but offering everything in your day up to God is a bigger one.


#7

Odd. When I click the link in my Favorites, it works. When I click it in the forum it does not.

mothersruleoflife.com/

Try typing it in… :confused:


#8

I’ve recently started creating my own family/home schedule and the initial results are wonderful. It is far from perfect and I am only taking pieces of the schedule and incorporating it into a habit. Over time things will work more smoothly.

However, from just the pieces I’ve incorporated so far, I’ve found my Rule to be refreshing. I thought my dh and kids would complain about “chore time” before and after meals but they didn’t question it and now the dishes are done right away, the table wiped down and the floor swept where it was chaos before. I find when I do follow my schedule more closely, I actually DO have free time to do my reading or sewing or whatever, whereas without it I feel lost and always 2 steps behind. And I like having set times to incorporate prayer throughout the day and really appreciate all God has given me - else I go the whole day in my own self-absorbed world.


#9

This is a great book focusing on how motherhood is a vocation, just as much as priesthood or religious life. The author does well on presenting the case for orderly living and keeping your prayer life alive. She does an excellent job of presenting the idea of routine/scheduling your life, although I did not follow her scheduling down to the T. It really changed how I viewed my work as wife/mother. Also, how doing every task, from the smallest to the dirtiest task, is done as if Jesus has asked me to do it, because He did ask me to do it, when he called me to this vocation.

Read the book, you won’t be sorry!


#10

I read it and loved it! Someone on this board recomended it to me when I was discerning to or not to HS. It has really helped me to view things in a better light. So much of our society wants to look down on SAHMs and HSing that it really helped me with my own self esteem to see it as a calling from God. Then you can relate to all the saints and how they had to battle with their callings; this gave me more strength and determination. My favorite thing was combining a rosary or reading some inspirational lit while on the treadmill. I get a double good feeling because I have enriched my soul and physical health at the same time! It is amazing how taking those 30 minutes out of the day for myself and to not feel guilty for it but more inspired by it!

Read it! It will touch your life too!


#11

I too read it and finished it in just a couple of days, I just couldn’t put it down. My mil wants to borrow it and I just can’t give it up because I like to review it. I need to re-read it and now that my life has settled down a little I can make a better schedule


#12

Thanks for all the input. Now I just have to locate it at a library… or give up being so cheap and actually buy a copy. I am sure that my mom will want to borrow it too, along with some other women I know, so, all things considered, it would be a good investment… See, I am talking myself right into it!!


#13

I have read the book and have implemented a lot of her ways into my life.

But staying on a strict schedule with a newborn is hard!

I definitely like her focus on herself. Like taking time for prayer…coffee in the afternoon, etc. There, I gave a way what I have changed in my life. I also, have night routine that I stick to…it helps to have somewhat “decent” house to wake up to in the morning.

The only thing I haven’t got yet…my Saturday alone!

Got to go…everyone’s up from their naps!


#14

Saturday alone doesn’t happen here either. I doubt that it ever will.
BUT I do occasionally get what my husband and I call a “coffee break.” Every once in a while he buys me a bookstore gift card (Borders stores have cafes) and that is ONLY for my coffee breaks. When I know I need a break he and I try to figure out a time when I can take a couple of hours. I can sit and have a coffee and browse the books or magazines. It’s always refreshing and I appreciate that he does this for me & never argues about it.

As someone else mentioned (sorry, I can’t remember who) I feel so much better when I stick to my “rule” for the day. I’ve been revamping it a bit since the new school year started but I’m finally feeling like it is working well the way it is. :thumbsup:


#15

I know I already replied once, but I love this book. I do not get my Saturdays alone, but I do get 2-3 hours if my hubby is in port. He will take the kiddos to their YMCA classes thus giving me 2-3 hours or alone time in my own home. I can sew, or crop or just take a long bath. It has been great!

I was having problems with picking which chores to do when and sticking to it, so I just wrote down all the things I need to do, chore wise, and use it as a check list for each week. Since mine are 3 and 6, I have certain days with more time for chores than others. It has helped me a lot!


#16

Hi Everyone:
A friend of mine in England reviewed this book recently for a Catholic publication. She gave me permission to post her review here.

A Mother’s Rule of Life. By Holly Pierlot. Sophia Press.

The author, who lives in Canada and who home-schools her five children, describes her ‘Rule’ as a way to ‘bring order to your home and peace to your soul.’ This sounds a tall order for all those mothers who find their homes are often very disordered and whose souls (and tempers) frequently feel a little frayed in consequence. Do not be disheartened but read on; the author devised her Rule because she felt constantly overwhelmed by children’s demands and domestic disarray. Reasoning that religious orders flourish with structure and a rule, she realised that if she were ever to find God ‘amid the diapers, the bills and the stomach flu’, she would have to impose method on her married and family life.

The essentials, she decided, were prayer, meals, laundry, tidying up, maths and spelling and the formula for orderly living involved ‘the five Ps’: prayer, person, partner, parent and provider. Making time for prayer, including Mass and Confession, came first for it gave supernatural significance to everything else; ‘person’ meant understanding herself in order to change and adapt where necessary , and allowing for her own needs as well as those of her family. With her husband’s agreement, the author has a ‘Mother’s Sabbath’, a day entirely to herself once a fortnight, when he runs the household. ‘Partner’ called for reflection on her married vocation, while ‘parent’ and ‘provider’ called for an honest reappraisal of what Christian motherhood meant and the need to budget sensibly. One income, many bills and struggling with debt required more than nagging dissatisfaction at what she did not possess, coupled with occasional impulse-buying. The decision to do regular tithing led to a deeper appreciation of the providence of God; she realised that ‘whenever we stopped tithing, things would quickly degenerate.’

Trained like her husband as a teacher, it took time for Holly Pierlot to recognise that being at home with her children was not second-best to the world of work. She discovered that ‘the work I was doing wasn’t so very different from jobs “out in the world”…I was Prime Minister of my home’ – as well as governor, lawyer, policeman, teacher, chef, nurse, decorator, manicurist and much more. The list will be familiar to all mothers; it is a great pity that recent governments have spent vast sums on childcare so that women can return to the workplace, and so little on helping mothers stay in their most natural and creative habitat: their home. The author, a thoroughly modern woman who once dressed like a punk, who dropped out of school to play in a band and who gave up her faith, did not find it easy to surrender her supposed ‘freedom’ for marriage and a family. Slowly and painfully, guided by her spiritual director as she returned to her Catholic beliefs, she came to understand that true freedom and fulfilment are the result of prayer, self-discipline and service of others. Her thoughts on sloth – the disease of the will – are particularly insightful and she is humorous and unabashed about her own perceived failings, here and elsewhere. Some disorganised women might find the notes, lists, timetables and schedules she pins up around her house a little daunting, despite her insistence that the ‘Rule is a tool, not a tyrant’, but there is much practical advice in this book for all mothers (including those who do not home-school), especially those who rule their own domestic kingdoms with various degrees of inconsistency, despotism or chaos and who yearn to live life more abundantly.

Francis Phillips.


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