In mainstream America and at 21st century college campuses, this idea could likely get me tared and feathered…but I really don’t want my wife to work unless it is a necessity.
I’m 23, have an English degree and am studying nursing presently. I think I may like to teach English and Religion, but also want to be able to provied for a large (at least 5 kids) family - hence the nursing.
I’m more than happy to not have a 3rd or if it’s possible 2nd car, a boat, a time share, a big TV, or any of that. But with salaries as they are I doubt my ability to teach…heck even to be a nurse, and afford the expenses of a home and family with a mother there full time.
I’m big on these goofy quotes, and I don’t have it now, but I read a quote from a Doctor of the Church that explained, “a mother who chooses to work over staying with her children commits grave sin, unless her working is required to help (or fully) provide for her children’s basic shelter, food, and education.”
I think the idea of a stay at home mom is beautiful. It will take alot of humilty in this culture. It will also take sacrifice by a family to make due with less. But the care that could be provided by a good Catholic woman for her children, it seems more precious that annual Disney trips or dinners at fancy resturants.
Maybe I’ve an unfair advantage. I don’t care for nice stuff. Driving an old car. Watching a fuzzy tv. Eating Ramen. It doesn’t bother me. But those savings may not be enough.
A bunch of questions here:
Is it practical/possible? Even as a teacher?
Exactly how much ridicule might society really fling?
How do I explain to family?
- I can see my family thinking me lazy for accepting less materially.
- I could see a wife’s family thinking I’m holding her down and not showing respect.
Any big problems with such conventions that I may not see?
(I’d ask if y’all think I could find that girl, but I’ve found a few who think this way, so they exist )