Reading several threads about annulments, divorce and moving on prompted me to start this thread. I started thinking…seriously thinking about what it means to move on, to trust again.
I thought I was ok with everything up until now, I really thought I had “moved on” since I felt good about being “out” of the situation I was in, the only thing left is the finalizing of the divorce. I do feel good, I know I did the right thing, the man I married didn’t want to be married.
So here’s my concern…have I really moved on? I know I’m over my stbx, I know I don’t want anything to do with him ever again, but I have not had any kind of relationship with any other man so what if I’m stuck:confused: :o? You know…the whole trust thing. I’m doing fantastic…by myself:blush:. I don’t have to talk to anyone, share with anyone, explain to anyone, etc.
The thought of having another relationship really scares me, not so much because of the guy, but because of me. Can I really ever trust again…I mean really, truly trust…I don’t think I have it in me and I certainly wouldn’t want to make someone have to deal with my trust issues, my fears, my inability to give myself fully.
So how does a person like me do this without dragging someone else into my “emotional mess”:shrug: :o. I’m doing great, but I really haven’t been challenged in that arena yet so can I really say that I’m doing great when I really don’t know?
I don’t know if I made any sense, if I did I’m glad if not…sorry:blush: . Any wisdom or light shed on this would be greatly appreciated.