I’m an American non-Muslim woman. My husband is an Indian Muslim.
Way before we met, he lived in England and married there. He was with his English (Muslim) wife for three years, and they never had children. They separated with intent to divorce and he left England for a year or two and didn’t go back.
He came to the United States May of 2015. I met him and he told me he was married before and I assumed he was divorced. We married June of 2015 in the United States. He then told me he never actually got divorced. I got an annulment November of 2015. His divorce in England was finalized in January of this year (2016).
He went back home, and thinking I didn’t want to be with him, got married in India in an arranged marriage to a Muslim girl he didn’t know. He was still Skyping/messaging me. They married early February 2016. He told me at the end of February that he had married again. I didn’t talk to him again. He came back to the United States in March. I talked to him again in May, and I married him again that month. He was dishonest with me again about some things, and I filed for divorce in August. I feel bad for talking to him again and marrying him, but he and I love each other and want to be together. Our divorce can be left alone and it won’t finalize. He told the other girl that he can’t have kids (which is true. If it happens it will be a rare chance. He and I already tried for a year. The doctor recommended IVF after analyzing his sperm).
After filing for divorce, I bought him a ticket to the middle east, where his dad lives part of the year. He hasn’t gone back to his Indian wife and doesn’t want or intend to.
Is it wrong for me to be with him and for him to live here in the states with me considering that poor girl, his other wife? Am I a monster of a person? He wants to keep abandoning her so that she’ll move on.