My brother has fallen away from Catholicism several years ago and is now an Atheist. He has come to the conclusion that that God and religion in general aren’t “logical” and therefore cannot be true. This has been very difficult for our family, especially my parents, but we love him nonetheless and support him however we can.
He has been dating a very nice woman for the last several years and they have been living together for maybe 4-5 years. Now they are engaged to be married. She is Catholic and was once married before in the Catholic Church, but they divorced. I am not sure if her first marriage was annulled or not and this is where I find a moral quandry from my third person and Catholic point-of-view. I am assuming that it wasn’t annulled. She has never spoken of it with us and, frankly, she can be a little distant with our family at times and we aren’t sure why. We are afraid that we would open up a can of worms if we bring up the annulment or lack-thereof. We all love her very much, but we also wish that she would make a more sincere effort to a part of our family.
I love my brother and I am so happy that he found his fiance. I do believe that they are right for each other and compliment each other very well. In the same breath, with her being a Catholic who may or may not be technically married to another man in the eyes of the Church, I find a dilemma in how we, as Catholics, can support such a union. On one hand, I know they are adults and must make their own decisions, but on the other hand I feel like we are supporting a fellow Catholic (my sister-in-law) live a life of sin by marrying my brother. Any thoughts?