A great many priests have someone in mind to marry when they realize that their actual vocation is to the priesthood. One priest told me that he actually told God that God would have to do something about his intended, because the young man had no interest in marrying anyone else. Shortly thereafter, the girl joined the convent. That was his sign! She didn't stay, but he got his answer, and he was very very happy as a priest. I also know several women who dated men who later became priests. Although I'm sure some women who once dated future priests do go to the convent and stay there, the ones I know are all happily married to someone else, and the couples are typically close and trusted friends of the priests. With other couples, the priesthood was a possibility but the husband realized he was meant to be married. That happens, too.
Do not let this fill you with anxiety. Consider this quote from Pope Benedict XVI, given at the close of his homily at the Mass at which he was installed as Pope:
[FONT="Georgia"]At this point, my mind goes back to 22 October 1978, when Pope John Paul II began his ministry here in Saint Peter’s Square.
His words on that occasion constantly echo in my ears:
“Do not be afraid! Open wide the doors for Christ!”
The Pope was addressing the mighty, the powerful of this world,
who feared that Christ might take away something of their power
if they were to let him in, if they were to allow the faith to be free.
Yes, he would certainly have taken something away from them:
the dominion of corruption, the manipulation of law and the freedom to do as they pleased.
But he would not have taken away anything that pertains to human freedom or dignity, or to the building of a just society.
The Pope was also speaking to everyone, especially the young. Are we not perhaps all afraid in some way?
If we let Christ enter fully into our lives, if we open ourselves totally to him,
are we not afraid that He might take something away from us?
Are we not perhaps afraid to give up something significant, something unique, something that makes life so beautiful?
Do we not then risk ending up diminished and deprived of our freedom? And once again the Pope said: No!
If we let Christ into our lives, we lose nothing, nothing,
absolutely nothing of what makes life free, beautiful and great.
No! Only in this friendship are the doors of life opened wide.
Only in this friendship is the great potential of human existence truly revealed.
Only in this friendship do we experience beauty and liberation.
And so, today, with great strength and great conviction,
on the basis of long personal experience of life, I say to you, dear young people:
Do not be afraid of Christ! He takes nothing away, and he gives you everything.
When we give ourselves to him, we receive a hundredfold in return.
Yes, open, open wide the doors to Christ – and you will find true life. Amen.[/FONT]