A little background info…
I was baptized as an infant, made my first communion, then was away from the Church for many years before recently returning. My brother was never baptized (my parents did not ever go to Mass, so there wasn’t enough hope that he would be raised in the Catholic faith. He just graduated from Basic Combat Training for the US Army, and is now at AIT. He has been exploring his faith while there. He told me he has been going to Protestant services because they are “more relaxing” than Mass (whatever thwr means). He is very much open to joining the Church, however.
He plans to marry his fiancé when he gets home. She is a lapsed Catholic, who made her First Communion and never really went back after that. They have two small children - one who is 18 months, the other 6 months. They were living together before he left, and will be when he returns.
How, exactly, should I go about trying to get him to join the Church? I very much care about his soul, but don’t want to come on too strongly. I realize he’d have to go through RCIA. Regarding their marriage, they would have to live as brother and sister until the Church blessed it, correct? If so, how strongly should I come on about this? I don’t want to scare him off, but I do want him to understand that there are rules that must be followed.
He is very impressionable at this point. Now that he is at AIT, I can talk to him much more often. How would you recommend going about this, step by step?
Please pray for him and for me.
In Jesus and Mary,