First of all, I have been happiliy married for over 14 years (and still am), my wife grew up in an agnostic but healthy family environment, she has always loved her Catholic friends, she converted to Catholicism prior to our wedding (happily), we have two wonderful girls (11 and 13), and she wants our girls to grow up with a strong faith. She also wants to grow in her Chirstianity, but is having more and more questions about many Catholic traditions and doctrine.
'm a faithful (don’t like the word strong) Catholic involved with the church and diocese, but she is the one now struggling with her faith. Outside of going to mass for years, religion was not a focus for her while I continued to grow in my faith. I’ve ‘nicely’ tried to bring her along for the ride, but the more discussion we have on religion, the more it makes her question her own faith. I thought that my being involved with the church, plus girls religious education classes (co-teacher), community service outreach, reading of scripture and books, giving the girls faith based direction, etc. would make things better, but it seems to be having the opposite affect.
As an example…Just this morning, my youngest was worried about facing her classmates because she knows that she did poorly on a test and the teacher would be returning the tests today during class. When I said that mom and dad loves her (my wife was present) and said that she doesn’t have to do this alone because God is always with her…just say a prayer to God as you enter class and ask for his guidance, I could tell that my wife was struggling herself with the statement…although good advice for those who ‘believe’.
Okay, enough babbling. I guess that I’m asking for any advice that someone might have to help her grow in faith. She recently started attending a protestant service on Saturday (lots of lights, cameras, and bands) and continues to attend Sunday mass with the familiy. She dislikes things about both environments and really is just struggling internally with how to find peace and then grow in her faith.
Outside of talking with my pastor, I’m reaching out to this community for some advice.
Thanks for hearing me out and God Bless.